Attachment Style Quiz: What Is My Attachment Style?
Answer 12 quick questions to see whether you lean secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful-avoidant. Free, takes about two minutes, and your answers never leave your browser.
The 4 Attachment Styles Explained
- Secure Attachment (Low anxiety, low avoidance) — You tend to feel comfortable with both closeness and independence. You can ask for support, tolerate conflict without panicking, and trust that a relationship can survive a rough patch.
- Anxious (Preoccupied) Attachment (High anxiety, low avoidance) — You crave closeness and are highly attuned to signs of distance. Silence, delayed replies, or a change in tone can set off worry that you are being left, which can lead to seeking reassurance, over-analyzing, or protesting.
- Avoidant (Dismissive) Attachment (Low anxiety, high avoidance) — You value self-reliance and can feel crowded by emotional demands. Under stress you tend to withdraw, minimize feelings, or solve things alone, which can leave partners feeling shut out.
- Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment (High anxiety, high avoidance) — You want closeness and also fear it. You may crave connection, then feel the urge to pull away when someone gets close — a push-pull pattern that often develops after inconsistent or frightening early relationships.
Attachment Style Test FAQ
What are the four attachment styles?
Adult attachment is usually described as secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), and fearful-avoidant (also called disorganized). They come from two dimensions: how much you worry about being abandoned (anxiety) and how uncomfortable you are with closeness (avoidance).
How accurate is an online attachment style test?
A short quiz gives a useful snapshot of your current patterns, not a diagnosis. Results vary with mood, the specific relationship, and life stress. Treat it as a starting point for reflection and, if it resonates, discuss it with a licensed therapist.
Can your attachment style change?
Yes. Research on "earned security" shows that attachment patterns can shift through supportive relationships, therapy, and deliberate practice. Styles are tendencies, not fixed traits.
What is the difference between anxious and avoidant attachment?
Anxious attachment copes with distress by moving toward a partner — seeking reassurance and closeness. Avoidant attachment copes by moving away — seeking space and self-reliance. When the two pair up, it can create a pursue-withdraw cycle.
Is fearful-avoidant the same as disorganized attachment?
In adult relationships the terms are used interchangeably. Both describe a mix of high anxiety and high avoidance: wanting closeness while fearing it.
Are my quiz answers saved?
No. Scoring happens entirely in your browser and nothing you select is sent to a server.