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How do i (18f) make my boyfriend (20m) sto…

We've been dating for around 1 year and 3 months, and since the beginning hes made it clear that he only likes skinny bodies and everything else is a deal breaker. Ever since he expressed dissatisfaction with my weight, I went to the gym around 4 times a week and maintained a calorie deficit but hes still discontent with my stomach A few examples: last night he grabbed my stomach fat and said "no good" and I asked what he wanted, he said for me to eat "less cals" Today, me, him, and his family went to Costco during a road trip. I got a hotdog and frozen mocha thing, he got pretty pissed and moody and said thats too much calories. He said he wouldnt mind me eating a hotdog if I was skinnier. He encourages me to fast for a really long amount of time for like 2 days, I always feel like im walking on eggshells whenever I even eat anything around him For context, im 5'6 and 122 pounds, all of my body is skinny except for my stomach which protrudes and has a higher fat percentage than the rest of my body and it does bulge a lot when I sit down. Hes also extremely skinny and only eats like one meal a day, which is usually a vegetable dish or fast food of some kind Edit: reading all of these comments is making me pretty overwhelemd and light-headed, I feel really stupid for staying with him as long as ive been, the reason I am is that I invested so much of my time and energy (I know its a fallacy to avoid) and we were both our first for everything, I feel like if id leave i wouldnt find as strong of a connection as I have with him. But I need to collect my thoughts especially since im currently stuck with him and states away from my home submitted by /u/snowyowl290 to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]