What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

My boyfriend (33M) is obsessed with me (30…

I (30 F) been seeing a guy (33M). We dated for 3 years bacl when I was 22 and he was 25. The issue is that I'm still seeing the same problems that I saw before. He is obsessed with me, and the chemistry is off the charts, and we couldn't leave the bedroom for the first couple of weeks after seeing each other for five years. At first it feels very nice and flattering but good God honestly it's exhausting. Last weekend I had to go to the store for a grocery store run (I like to knock it out in the mornings to have the rest of the day free to myself.) He didn't know where I was and he flipped out and said that I had to tell him where I was all the time and it wasn't even 9:00 am. He is crashing at my place for the moment, he lost his job, and he is currently looking for one. He cooks for me and cleans the house and that feels really nice but at the same time I'm like so when are you leaving? It's not like I don't like him it's just that I need my own space sometimes. I used to read books, go to the library, and go to the mall to browse on my days off work, but all he wants to do is be with me and have me, and stay in bed all day. I mean, I'm very attracted to him, but I cannot do this every single time for my days off work. I don't like being stuck at home on those days. And then in the afternoons he wants to lay down in my living room and watch movies and play video games. I feel so guilty for saying this, but he's so boring? I feel frustrated and overwhelmed and I don't remember the last time that he applied for a job. What can I do? (Sorry if some things are not clear, my first language is not English.) submitted by /u/Butterfly_Blvd1378 to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]