I (m34) don't trust my gf (f33) to prepare food or drink for me anymore and don't know if

For background, my girlfriend(f33) and i (m34) have been living together for 11 months. I was working on a project down south when i met her and we did long distance for a few months. She was down there living with an old college roommate and was struggling to find work. At the time she was unemployed and the job market down south sucked. I offered to let her move in with me because the job market was much better where i lived (a couple states north) and we wouldn't have to do long distance anymore. After she moved up here i bought a used car for her to use and she did find a job at a call center for a bit. For the last 6 months she's been unemployed and i have supported her. Over the last 3 months the relationship has devolved to the point where we are constantly fighting. After giving her an ultimatum she finally got a new job that started this week. Last week i got a ring camera and she was very upset by this "invasion of privacy" etc. I should have asked but its been helpful with coordinating grocery deliveries and makes me feel more secure. We fought about it and went to bed. The next morning i come down and she has a coffee ready for me on the table. I look into the coffee and there is something floating on the top. To my disgust i discovered that she had spat a loogie of snot into my morning coffee. I immediately confronted her about it and she denied it before eventually saying something along the lines of "if i did it, you know why". I told her it was time for her to leave. Initially i had told her she had to pack and leave immediately but i ended up walking that back because she had nowhere to go. No family, and no nearby friends. Despite my extreme disgust i couldn't just make her homeless. I told her to cleanup the guest room and move her stuff into it. She did but then came into my room early in the next morning because she "can't / is afraid to sleep in there alone". I mostly just ignored her and kept to myself. She tried to mend fences with me by cooking dinner a few days later when i looked at the food she had cooked all i could think about was the ball of snot in my coffee. Last night while trying to get to sleep i couldn't stop thinking about what else she might have done to my food. I told her she needed to move back into the guest room. I've never been in a situation like this before. Am i putting myself in jeopardy by allowing her to say? I'm not sure if this relationship is recoverable or if i should try. Edit: i had a talk with her when she came back from church (she just started attending). She wouldn't acknowledge her actions at first but i persisted. She's upset that "I'm throwing away a year of our lives" but not overly emotional about it. I told her she's got to figure out how to get along on her own now. I'm trying to be as fair but firm as possible. She asked to stay until her first paycheck from her new job comes in but i dont feel like i can risk her staying around. submitted by /u/Department_of_Dank to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]