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I (19m) want to leave my gender neutral pa…

I (19m) want to leave my gender neutral partner (18m/f) for someone more feminine, is that bad to say and how do I explain that to them? When I moved into my college life I had to change gyms, I started going to the gym nearest to my campus and that’s where I met CH (the gender neutral). KEEP IN MIND, during this time he was transgender (f to m). We started talking for a bit and went on a first date, we eventually did get into a relationship, BUT I MADE IT KNOWN THAT I NEVER HAVE DATED SOMEONE IDENTIFYING THE SAME GENDER AND MY VIEWS MIGHT CHANGE, BUT I WAS OPEN TO THE IDEA. The relationship was going very well, occasional hangouts, going to concerts, etc. But, I noticed during the relationship that I was still getting used to the proper pronouns, some mix-ups here and there. This has caused CH to be worried about me actually being ok with someone that’s transgender. At the breaking point, when I said things might change, they did, after a few months, I realized that this isn’t my thing and found I’m just more attracted to females and just more feminine looks. When I brought this up to CH saying I’m attracted to females, I just didn’t say I’m attracted to feminine features. CH revealed that they just want to be gender neutral recently, only want chest surgery and doesn’t want to be on Testosterone. CH keeps saying look past their gender but that would mean looking past my own gender and what I’m attracted to. Like I said before, I don’t know how to go about saying I’m attracted to feminine features and I still don’t know if that’s a horrible thing thing to say, what’s your guys opinions? submitted by /u/Melanthias to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]