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My (soon to be) ex-wife (28F) cheated and…

Where my ex and I live, because we will still be legally married when her baby is born, I will be listed as the father without having to sign the birth certificate or even be present for the signing of the birth certificate. There is nothing I can do to stop this either. She could choose to leave me off of it but she has already told me she will put me on the birth certificate because she wants both of her children raised together and for both to have a father or not. Now I want to be clear. I am not asking for any legal advice whatsoever. I have already retained a lawyer and will be working with them. This is purely for relationship advice. I do not want this child. I am not willing to be the father to her affair baby. There's also no way I can divorce her before the birth. Her lies and everything else meant I found out too late and I am fucked in that regard. It makes me hate her with a vengeance. She wants to pawn this baby off on me when I didn't get her pregnant. She knew from day one I didn't get her pregnant too and she chose to keep quiet because she knew he'd run and he did. She has tried to make me sound like a monster to neighbors, friends, family members because I told her I would not do a single thing for her baby and because I already told our child that the baby in mom's tummy is not my baby. Even without this baby we have to co-parent our child and I don't know how badly she will fuck all this up with her insistence for me to be the father. I have to bite my tongue in her presence when we exchange our child because I so badly want to tell her what a disgusting POS she is. I have literally made my mouth bleed trying to hold myself back with her. She's hoping she will have fucked me legally so that I have to take both kids when her youngest is born or I don't see our child. Knowing that fills me with rage and hatred. But I have to keep reminding myself that I love my child (DNA confirmed our child is mine) and my child needs me to not hate their mother in their presence so... I am stuck and I don't know what to do about this. Not sure if there's any advice anyone can offer on this but I wanted to find out anyway. submitted by /u/ThrowRARozzonox to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]