What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

I got chlamydia (29f) in a long term relat…

So I just got diagnosed with chlamydia today and I‘m super shocked. Both me and my partner have been together for almost two years and got tested the beginning of last year. We both were negative for STIs I asked my doctor specifically if i was really negative last year, since it can be apparently dormant for a long time, and she said yes. So how is that possible?? We definitely didn‘t cheat on each other. I‘m going to get a second test tomorrow just to make sure, but I‘m really sad and confused. Have you had a situation like this? Edit: i definitely didn‘t cheat, otherwise I would know why I have it and wouldn‘t post it on reddit. UPDATE: i suggested looking through each others phones to calm down emotionally and he initially agreed, but got super angry because that means there is no trust in the relationship. He let me do it anyway and i didn‘t find anything, he is super pissed though AND strangely, he never looked through mine even though i repeatedly offered it. And because others suggested it: i asked to see the results from last year (in a nice way) and he got super angry that i won‘t believe him and won‘t show me. He said he could be the one super angry and accusatory because i have the disease. And i told him „ABSOLUTELY i would understand so ask me anything“. Anyway he slammed the door because he is super angry i don‘t trust him in our relationship, is this even behavior that is understandable??? submitted by /u/ThrowRA_GoldXX to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]