What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

My husband and I go to bed naked | CheckYourRelationship

Me and my husband started going to bed naked together a year after we married about three times a week and I want to share this because of how nice it is. For context, we both work jobs with long hours and it’s very rare for us to have off time together without being called in or having to take a call. 4 years ago, one day, we were both home after working around 12 hours each. We had just showered and I went out the bathroom to grab clothes for myself. I ended up being too tired and fell asleep on the floor. My husband saw me on the floor and was too exhausted to dress either of us. So, he tucked me in and we fell asleep naked that night. Ever since then, it’s been our ritual after working long hours to lay down together naked. We don’t expect sex or anything, it’s more so just to talk and relax. I love my husband. 10/10, would recommend. submitted by /u/softbreadiebaker to r/Marriage [link] [comments]