What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

My wife jumped into my arms. | CheckYourRelationship

I recently went away for a work trip; I was away for five days. We spoke and texted every day, and I couldn’t wait to get back. My buddy picked me up from the airport and drove me home. I was walking up to my front door when she ran out and jumped into my arms, and we held each other for about 30 seconds. This will be burned into my memory forever. It was so sweet and made me feel loved and appreciated. I even took a screen recording from our home security camera and saved it to watch over and over again. Seriously, it’s the little things that matter the most. I’ve told her all this in person. She's on Reddit, and I hope she sees this. submitted by /u/andyb2383 to r/Marriage [link] [comments]