My dad (60M) wants me (26F) to invite him to my wedding after he already said he was choosing his stepdaughter's (24F) wedding instead?

My dad and I had a really good relationship until I was 10. That's when he met his current wife and became a stepfather to her three kids and when he started to treat his stepdaughter like she was the golden child. Everything she wanted she got. He would show up to everything she invited him to even if it meant canceling plans he already had. He abandoned plans with me so many times because she wanted him to watch her dance or something. His wife divided her time a little more equally among her three kids but she kinda favored her daughter too. Our relationship was never the same after that. There were times he would be like why are you so distant with me or where's my special girl gone and we would talk about it and he'd be a little more present. But he always went back to his old behavior. After a few years of that his stepdaughter decided she wanted a sister so my dad insisted the three of us do things together. I wanted no part of it because my dad still only cared about what she wanted. The last time we all did something I made her cry because I told her she wasn't my sister and she stole my dad and I wanted her to leave me alone. He asked me why I would be so mean to my sister and we got into our first actual fight. A week later he apologized and he told me he'd do better but it was the same as the other times. He didn't even come to my graduation because his wife was out of town visiting her sons and his stepdaughter got sick. That was the day we had our second fight and I left the house that day with all my stuff packed. I lived with my grandparents for two years before I was able to get a place with my fiancé (boyfriend at the time). Dad and I have talked about our issues a few additional times while we were both adults. I took a year of no contact and after that he started making a much better effort to be a better dad. That lasted until I told him the date for my wedding. Before setting the actual date he had told me it was fine but then when I told him it was official he announced his stepdaughter was engaged and they would all be flying out to Spain for a week so she could get married in her fiancé's home. He told me he had to go for that so he couldn't make my wedding anymore. I told him not to talk to me again and to forget about my wedding and me since she's always going to come first. He tried to say something and I told him to go fuck himself and kiss his stepdaughter's ass some more since he loves her so damn much. That was months ago and he reached out again asking me to invite him and saying he will be there and to please let him show me he can do this. I ignored his request but he already told extended family who I talk to and they told me I could at least give him the chance to prove to me, because don't I want him to show me he'll choose me over her. I don't see why I would give him another chance to put her before me. But I wanted advice because there are people suggesting I give him a chance who also think he sucks overall for choosing her and for canceling plans to make more with his stepdaughter. submitted by /u/ThrowRA_Blubberley to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]