Setting financial boundaries with my GF (F32) who thinks our relationship is "unfair" because I (M31) have more PTO

I really need some outside perspective. My GF (F32) and I (M31) split our household bills proportionally based on our incomes, which felt totally fair. But lately, more arguments boils down to money, emotional boundaries, and what is "fair. Her family needs for money for emergencies (e.g., medical) and she needs to support her mother monthly. It all falls on her. I’ve been chipping in, but I want to stop, especially since I see her mother wasting money on dumb (temu) things. On top of that, my job gives me 3 more weeks of PTO per year than hers. She now wants us to split the cost of buying her extra vacation days so we have equal time off. She says we’ll never be equals if she does need to pay for family and has less income + has less PTO. Furthermore, she needed to pay for a lot of things anf support her family, my study and driver's license got paid for. Now she wants to get a licence and hopes I'll split that to. She claims I'm being defensive and unsupportive. I feel like "fairness" is being weaponized to guilt me into paying for her life. Am I missing something here? Am I actually being selfish, or are these unreasonable expectations? Probably something in-between. TL;DR: GF (F32) wants me (M31) to help pay for her family abroad and buy her extra PTO days to match mine because I make more money. submitted by /u/1Derpdos1 to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]