What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

Today my (29M) Husband (30M) was cleared o…

A few months ago, they found a tumour the size of a tennis ball in his abdomen whilst doing an unrelated ultrasound. The doctors gave it a 70% chance of malignancy. 3 weeks ago he had surgery to remove it and today we go the result back that he’s 100% all clear, totally benign!!! He is the light of my life and I do not know how I would cope without him. I didn’t realise how much his personality changed over the last 3 months. He withdrew. Talked less, was more on edge, had less light behind his eyes. Now it’s like I have my husband back! I’m so relived and happy. This man makes me breakfast in bed every morning and reads to me every evening. He treats me better than I deserve to be treated. I am so lucky to have him. I’m so incredibly relived he’s ok. He is the most beautiful and pure soul I’ve ever met, and I feel him every day in my heart, making me a better man. That is all, just wanted to share our good news. Through sickness and health, he was there when I lost my leg, and I will always be there for you Ash, to the edge of the earth and beyond. submitted by /u/organic_hobnob to r/Marriage [link] [comments]