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My bf is cheating on me with my sister wha…

Firstly thanks for all the advices. There were a vast range of opinions,and i was not sure which ones to consider and which ones to not.i just went with what felt right for me. I took some time to calm down and yesterday night I confronted my boyfriend. And oml I cant believe I spent so much effort and love into this person who doesn't even give two fucks about me. He started justifying his actions and told me he considers her a 'sister' then I told him I had seen the Polaroids too that's when he lost his voice.i just cried and asked him again and again why would he do that to me and he just kept apologising and telling me it wont happen anymore. But ik better than that, i told him I dont wanna see him for some time. i was thinking to confront my sister but her call came first. And ofc like always instead of showing any sense of guilt she proudly owned upto it as if it was some sorta medal. this has happened more than enough times. I have gotten angry over things like this bcs of her multiple times. But I am done now.i love her as my sister but I can never love her as a person. I told her she can do whatever she wants but to stay away from me and that I wont be associating with her anymore. She tried ragebaiting me again but I directly blocked her. I cant deal with her anymore. As for my boyfriend I am not sure what to do I put so much love and effort into him. He is the only person that I used to feel safe with and now that's gone too. submitted by /u/Neither-Cellist-458 to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]