What is the Gottman Four Horsemen?

The Four Horsemen are four communication patterns that Dr. John Gottman identified as predictors of relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: Criticism (attacking your partner's character), Contempt (treating your partner with disrespect), Defensiveness (making excuses or playing the victim), and Stonewalling (withdrawing and shutting down). Our Red Flag assessment is based on this research.

How do I know if my relationship has red flags?

Red flags include patterns of controlling behavior, lack of respect, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, isolation from friends/family, and any form of abuse. Our free 37-question assessment helps identify these warning signs based on proven psychological research.

Is the relationship assessment quiz free?

Yes, all core assessment tools on CheckYourRelationship are completely free. This includes the Red Flag Detector, Safety Assessment, Compatibility Check, and access to our Q&A community. We believe safety tools should never be paywalled.

Is my assessment data private?

Absolutely. Your assessment answers are 100% private and anonymous. We use client-side encryption for sensitive data like exit plans, and your personal data is never sold or shared. You can also use our Quick Exit feature at any time.

Should I marry my partner quiz - how accurate is it?

Our 'Should I Marry Them?' assessment helps you identify deal-breakers and compatibility factors based on research from the PREPARE/ENRICH program used by over 4 million couples worldwide. While no quiz can make your decision for you, it provides evidence-based insights to help you make an informed choice.

My husband does this for me every day, and…

I'm 37 weeks pregnant, and every day my husband washes the rice, chops all the vegetables, and gets everything ready before I cook. He also does most of the household chores , he's been doing this since the start of our marriage. Recently, he took me to a salon for a haircut so I could have a little self-care before the baby arrives. He also took me to a therapist so we could prepare for postpartum depression and talk about how to handle visitors after the baby is born.Hemakes me feel supported, safe, and cared for. I know pregnancy isn't easy, but having a partner who shows up every single day has made this journey so much lighter. I feel incredibly lucky to have him. ❤️ submitted by /u/Ok-Concern-1103 to r/Marriage [link] [comments]