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My (22f) BF (26m) refuses to share his cur…

I have been dating him for 7 months. I tend to travel a bit. He works in real estate btw. Family business. He knows every single one of my addresses in whichever city i live. I have invited him over many times. When i ask him to share his address he says no not now. He gave me an address where he is gonna move in (they are renovating the place) However, i have asked him for his address multiple times over the months sometimes just for just sending him gifts or ordering food for him but he never shared it with me. He also refused to tell me what is his family firms name? All of this has been hurtful but i just don’t understand!! Why can only i not know this information while i share everything with him?? And im his gf of 7 whole months. Update after 3 hours of posting- Thanks to everyone who has opened my eyes to it. I let it go for so long because i am too someone who values privacy and i dont believe in pushing people to tell me things. I assumed he would tell me himself at some point but we are at a very sensitive point and i just got tired of feeling weird about not knowing my partners address. To everyone saying to google him. I have. All i found was a Facebook account. His number and name matches. The address is his because i matched that w google maps. Im extremely broken even imagining the possibility of him dating someone because cheating is my biggest dealbreaker. I unblocked him and asked him if he is hiding anything. I spoke about this again. And he again said that i dont need to have his current address cuz i do have his future one. Makes no sense when he doesnt even live there. And yes he is well off. But he knows im not a gold digger. Neither have i ever asked him for money. He gifted me something once and i gifted him an equally expensive thing. Its not about money. About the business, I live in India. Real estate markets are completely different. Not everyone needs an online presence or social media. Most of it is through networking as much as im aware. I assume its a bit different to track it. However i have been trying since a while. submitted by /u/InvestigatorFar7764 to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]