My (30M) best friend's (32M) wife (28F) did something highly unethical at work and I think I need to report her, althrough it almost certainly will get her fired. How do I navigate not wanting to hurt them with this violation?

I am going to try to make this as straightforward as possible. Due to my father's recent death, I came into a substantial amount of money. My best friend's wife, who I also consider a friend, works for an estate planning attorney. I have a kid with an ex (27F). My ex and my best friend's wife got quite close when my ex and I were together and remain close. I went to my best friend's wife about the inheritance to set up a meeting with her boss to discuss estate planning. I had a good meeting, we have set up a revocable trust for my kid with various contingencies and whatnot. I have not discussed this at all with my ex because I see it as none of her business. Well, my best friend's wife apparently told my ex about the things I was doing with my estate. My ex called me furious (Just for context, we have split custody, but I pay child support due to making significantly more than my ex, and the inheritance has no impact whatsoever on my child support obligation). I told my ex: (1) this was none of her business, and (2) she has no right to know about that. When I pressed my ex, she admitted my best friend's wife told her. I called my best friend mad myself. His wife eventually called me and apologized. She said she let a few things slip over drinks and then when my ex pressed her, she gave the details. She begged me to not tell her boss. My best friend made the same request. I love both these people and understand mstakes can happen. But, I am also upset and do not know how to deal. Any advice on how to navigate would be appreciated. submitted by /u/ThrowRA_firingfriend to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]