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Late grandparents left me (19M) and my you…

My dad (51M) married my stepmom (46F) 7 years ago. My dad has me (19M) and my sister (17) and my stepmom has my stepsister (13) and stepbrother (10). We all get along okay and things were cool until a year ago when my grandpa died and in his will it was revealed that once grandma died me and my sister would be left an inheritance along with all our cousins on dad's side of the family. So it was us two, my aunts two kids, uncles three kids (adopted) and another uncle's one kid. My stepsiblings were not included and when grandma died earlier this year that was undeniable. She had named each grandkid she was leaving an inheritance to. My sister and I were not expecting our dad to act like he was angry with us, when we didn't choose who got an inheritance. But he took his emotions out on us and I moved out as a result and my sister spends the night at my place a lot because of it. My stepmom's more hurt that my adopted cousins were included so blood isn't the issue but her kids weren't even though they have no other grandparents and she thought my grandparents had accepted them as real grandkids too. But they got nothing. Not the money or anything sentimental from grandma and grandpa's things. My sister and I don't have the money yet. There are some legal things to deal with first. But I already know what I want to do with the money and it's going to be a HUGE help in two or three years time. A few weeks ago my dad took me and my sister out for lunch and he told us we have to face up to reality. He said if we want this family to work and if we want a relationship then we need to split the money four ways. If not then we are not the kids he raised and he doesn't want us to become an infection for the whole family. He made my sister cry when he was talking like that and he threw our mom (an addict) in our faces which really freaking hurt. I don't know what people would say I should do which is why I'm asking for advice. Right now I just want to make sure my sister's okay because this has all been so brutally hard for her. submitted by /u/ThrowRATinnySpam to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]